Fidelity.

Had a conversation at a wedding recently, about that Andy Grammer song, Honey, I’m Good. And the popular opinion seems to be that it’s a song about a guy who gets a little too drunk one night, drunk enough to actively acknowledge the temptation of whiskey and women that bars are so well known for. And somehow, in the opinions of my fellow wedding guests, this acknowledgment is enough to condemn the song’s protagonist as an unfaithful partner who is, without question, one drink away from going home with whatever woman happens to look his way.

But if you pay enough attention, it’s actually an incredibly realistic portrayal of monogamy and fidelity. Because fidelity is a choice, one that good couples make every day of their lives. A committed relationship is not defined by immunity to temptation – instead, commitment is the constant struggle to decide that what you already have is what you want above all else.

For some couples, it’s easier than others – as simple as an offhand ‘no, thank you’ when that handsome co-worker asks you out for coffee. Barely even a thought. Others have to rouse themselves from a blur of vodka and heat before they recognize the decision they’re about to make.

But in any case, the temptation is there. What changes, when you find a person you’re willing to commit to, isn’t a miraculous resistance to the thrill of a stranger’s touch on your skin – it’s a strengthened resolve to walk away.